Gay Times

In my lifetime, I have seen sexuality come completely out of the closet. It is hard to listen to one news report without hearing long, insensitive declarations about same sex marriage, homosexual activity or heterosexual trapeze acts of some sort.

In high school, I never heard the word homosexual; and I was a very well read young person. At the university, my first introduction to homosexual perversion of any sort came from students who would talk about certain professors. It was all strange to me; I think every young person is in a state of confusion about sexuality because in the Christian home, like drunkenness and other sins, it is just not discussed.

People of class and quality do not become puppets of the news media in trying to entertain one another with tales of torrid behavior. I worked very hard for every dollar and had worked hard for a new pair of brown and white saddle oxfords. I threw away a perfectly good pair of shoes because I heard one of my more affluent and worldly dorm residents say to others who would listen in a “bull session”, “Only 'queers' wear saddle oxfords.” This was my first reality torrent in trying to please other people and gain their acceptance. Young men, like older men, do what they do because they believe what they believe; from a genetic background of the need for acceptance, we mere mortals spend our entire lives attempting to please creatures instead of our creator.

One of the saddest experiences of my life happened with a cousin who I knew was probably gay, even though in appearance, attitude and accomplishments one would never suspect. After college, he became an Air Force officer, then a music graduate student and one of the country's greatest church organists in a large Manhattan church. He had visited me in my home in New York City, even though I never knew him as a young person. Shortly before he died of AIDS, he came to my house on the beach and spent several hours talking to me about his condition and his life. Like most homosexuals, he had lived a life of identity confusion; trying to hold on to God with one hand and Satan with the other. Although of high income accomplishment, he had lost most of his wealth (including his inheritance) by “high living” and “fair weather friends” who because they didn't have money of their own, were glad to spend his.

So with certain death facing him (he lived 2 months after that encounter) he was receiving treatment at a VA facility and died. His sister, his only survivor, called me later and asked, “Where were all the people who had so loved him when he was well and spending money on them?” She said, “There were only 2 people at his funeral service; one cousin and me.”

My cousin, like so many gay males with whom I have talked, never spoke of his father. I have never known a gay male who had a relationship with his father, most only talk of their mothers. I have never known a lesbian female who had a relationship with her mother, she only talks of her father. It is essential, that a son bond with his father. It is essential, that the father share his male interests and experiences with his son. Since most fathers are abrupt and demanding, much less sensitive than the mother, a male child will retreat to the mother unless the father realizes the importance of 'maleness' in a sons life. In primitive cultures, people who do not have psychologists and sociologists advising them on their standards and life activities, I noted that there was always 'maleness' in the camp.

Separate male activity from the female interests that went on with the girls surrounding their mother. The male genetic hunter defending responses must be encouraged by a loving father. Male athletic activities must be encouraged by a loving father. A loving father will not allow his son to be involved in pre-Kindergarten activities where 'girl things' and 'male things' are all mixed together. I understand, that in daycare facilities, unlike it was at one time, boy and girl toys are all mixed; that the boys are encouraged to play with dolls, the girls with trucks. Such early exposure as this is the beginning of the sexual woes of your children.

In spite of the sabotage visited on 'maleness' in childhood and youth, many boys, in spite of molestation, a feminine curriculum, (pursued largely by a predominance of female school teachers) develop as young men.

I assisted the psychiatric department in the Army Hospital (at the WAC Center of the Army). I have never recovered from learning the number of women who were sexually abused as children. 85% of all lesbians were sexually abused as children. Sexual abuse in males is usually a determining factor in their identity crisis. We all know the curiosity, the embarrassment, the sensitivity, in our initial introduction to sex. Even in medical school, most of us were too embarrassed, too sensitive, to even discuss the subjects of homosexuality, perverted sex, or abortion. As young men, most of us would go to a male pharmacist at the drug store for the purchase of contraceptives. Like the pastor, the family doctor hesitated to even talk about sex with anyone. Now, young children are indoctrinated with the condom and cucumber, the morality of abortion, and same sex marriage on every news commentary as well as the classroom. Sex has become more commonplace than the school dance. Like the police officer patrolling the halls replacing prayers and patriotism in the classrooms, schisms of liberal pornography have replaced the solace of scholastic achievement.

Oprah Winfrey and Barbara Walters, buffeted by psychologist associations (APA), promote 'corrective surgery' and 'sex change' instead of Christian counseling and sex satisfaction. For young people distressed into thinking they have the wrong body, the God who made them what they are is ready to guide in the right direction. Instead of distorted surgery reconciling to a distorted mind, extremely expensive, never ending in its questionable results, the end of distortion found in disclosing the truth should be the goal of everyone concerned; parent, pastor, physician, psychologist.

We live at a time, when we expect surgery or a prescription to correct everything. The mind, like the body, has the remarkable ability to heal itself. Throwing gasoline onto a fire in a building, is no way to save it.

The grace of God is sufficient for all our needs. The most marvelous words you will ever read concerning your development and your life are found in Psalm 139. There is nothing in the human genome (23,000 genes) that is ambiguous about your sex. Some have tried to attribute sexual confusion to God's genetic mistake. This problem is adaptation, not genetics; and God, who designed you, who named you, before the foundation of the world, did not intend for you to be confused in your sexuality. Whether a doctor, lawyer, teacher, preacher, Indian chief, all have had confusion with sexuality. Always remember, “And He who sent Me is with Me. The Father has not left Me alone, for I always do those things that please Him.” (John 8:29)

In talking with young gay males, I have been surprised at the number who had experienced the call to the ministry. The Christian church, for many years, like so many human activities, (homosexuality, disability, alcoholism) have not just turned the other cheek but have turned their backs to those in greatest need. Just as long as you are well dressed, well controlled, walk the aisle and sign the card, normal people were acceptable to God's Kingdom. The homosexual community, knowing the hypocrisy of the redemption in Christian churches, sought refuge in churches with their own kind (Metropolitan Community Church) now found in every city in the country; where gay people come together with 'Christian credibility' to have their worship service and venture forth to do good works in the community. This may be entirely different from the church started in Acts second chapter until the present day churches featuring TV Evangelists, healing absurdities, 'feel good' entertainment, but the drama and drums, bells and smells, of the 20th Century churches like 20th Century parenting, evidently, did not meet the needs of many “unaborted” children seeking an 'abundant life' (John 10:10) and the crucial care afforded all citizens.

Of particular significance, even to that early Corinthian church, found on an isthmus of Greece, a sinful metropolitan area of trouble to Paul, we find him saying that homosexuals, like adulterers, can be forgiven. “Know you not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortionists, shall inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you: but you are washed, but you are sanctified, but you are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God.” (1 Cor 6:9-11)

Billy Graham, famed evangelist, one who knows the frailties of humanity said, “Don't take credit for your failure to fall into the temptations that have overtaken others.” Today, more so than even 20 years ago, there are many reputable, credible resources you can go to for help. Most pastors, most parents, are afraid to even broach the subject, and many so-called specialists in this area know nothing about it. Our blessed Lord knew about gay activity and other sexual activity, abortion and other sins, before they ever happened. He shed his precious blood on Calvary's cross for all these sins and stands ready to forgive and forget. Don't make things worse than they already are with sex change surgery. The proffering of gay clubs and gay churches, the stench in the very nostrils of God by pretending that a same sex union is marriage, the enigmatic scourge of every ethos pretending to be acceptable.

Living for Jesus- Hymn

Living for Jesus a life that is true;
striving to please him in all that I do,
yielding allegiance, glad hearted and free,
this is the pathway of blessing for me.
Living for Jesus wherever I am,
doing each duty in his holy name,
willing to suffer affliction or loss,
deeming each trial a part of my cross.